“You don’t have the relationship you want, because you don’t know who you are.”


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A relationship mentor told me that 4 years ago and as much as I hated to hear it, it was true. 

I had spent so many years losing myself in relationships, that I no longer had any sense of who I was. 

If you want to create a healthy relationship in your life, you have to be able to answer the question: 

“Who am I?”

Who you are—your identity—drives who you pick, how you show up in relationships, and the level of satisfaction and fulfillment you feel in our relationships. 

Across your entire life… your WHO impacts your DO… 

The answers you find in answering the question of identity lay the groundwork for having the healthy relationship you are dreaming of. 

Without a comprehensive answer to this question, there are cracks in your relationship foundation.

Ever tried to build a house with a shaky foundation? It’s unstable. 

If you’ve never thought that answering this question is an important first step to creating the healthy love relationship you desire, maybe sit with it for awhile and see what comes up. 

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