“You don’t have the relationship you want, because you don’t know who you are.” https://www.youtube.com/shorts/xO5rJUVtnXc Link on YouTube A relationship mentor told me that 4 years ago and as much as I hated to hear it, it was true. I had spent so many years losing...
Does every area of your life seem to be working, but your love life is a hot mess? https://youtube.com/shorts/W-L_T5cg7kQ Frequently I find that my coaching clients have a great circle of friends, they are high performers in their chosen careers, but their love life...
Relationships are containers where unmet needs, joys, fears, hopes, and desires are experienced. 🧩 Relationships are where we are at our best, like, when we realize that we are better together as a partnership than alone… 🧩 And our worst, like, when...
When we are in relationships, we are going to be triggered. Full stop. 🛑 It sucks, but triggers are a part of healthy relationships. Eww. So, rude. 🤨 A trigger, according to Dr. @frank_andersonmd: ❤️🔥”A trigger is...
“When you struggle with your partner, you are struggling with yourself. Every fault you see in them touches a denied weakness in yourself. Every conflict you wage is an excuse not to face a conflict within” — The Path to Love by Deepak Chopra Oof. That is a hard pill...
Knowing whether to stay or leave a relationship is a difficult decision. I have wrestled with questions of whether to “stay or go” many times. I have asked this question in employment situations, in life, and this question has been pivotal as I have examined...
Silence does not equal agreement. It may mean your partner is shut down. “Do not take her silence as tacit agreement” A counselor said that to my former partner and I as we were navigating a conflict. He was an extrovert and tended to have an “attack and defend” style...
When we are upset it is normal to feel like: “I am so mad!” The reality, however, it that only a PART of you is angry. There are other parts of you that are – Hurt – Sad – Curious – Confused – Open to learning The belief that we ARE what...
This is what I learned about boundaries from a hurricane Katrina survivor 🌪 In 2005, hurricane Katrina barreled in & uprooted thousands. 62 families landed in my back yard in rural Georgia and a team of us mobilized to get them back on their feet. One...
We discover the fullness of who we are in relationship to another person. Martin Buber says every “I” needs a “thou” to individuate. There are parts of us that don’t come online until they enter into a relationship where their needs, wants, values, and personality can...
