Relationships are containers for transformation

Relationships are containers for transformation

Relationships are containers where unmet needs, joys, fears, hopes, and desires are experienced. 🧩 Relationships are where we are at our best, like, when we realize that we are better together as a partnership than alone… 🧩 And our worst, like, when...
Triggers are a part of healthy relationships, say what?!?

Triggers are a part of healthy relationships, say what?!?

When we are in relationships, we are going to be triggered. Full stop. 🛑 It sucks, but triggers are a part of healthy relationships. Eww. So, rude. 🤨 A trigger, according to Dr. @frank_andersonmd: ❤️‍🔥”A trigger is empathic...
When we struggle with our partner, we are struggling with ourself

When we struggle with our partner, we are struggling with ourself

“When you struggle with your partner, you are struggling with yourself. Every fault you see in them touches a denied weakness in yourself. Every conflict you wage is an excuse not to face a conflict within” — The Path to Love by Deepak Chopra Oof. That is a hard pill...
Should I stay or should I go now?

Should I stay or should I go now?

Knowing whether to stay or leave a relationship is a difficult decision. I have wrestled with questions of whether to “stay or go” many times. I have asked this question in employment situations, in life, and this question has been pivotal as I have examined...
Silence doesn’t equal agreement

Silence doesn’t equal agreement

Silence does not equal agreement. It may mean your partner is shut down. “Do not take her silence as tacit agreement” A counselor said that to my former partner and I as we were navigating a conflict. He was an extrovert and tended to have an “attack and defend” style...
A part of me is…

A part of me is…

When we are upset it is normal to feel like: “I am so mad!” The reality, however, it that only a PART of you is angry. There are other parts of you that are – Hurt – Sad – Curious – Confused – Open to learning The belief that we ARE what...
I become an I because of a you in relationships

I become an I because of a you in relationships

We discover the fullness of who we are in relationship to another person. Martin Buber says every “I” needs a “thou” to individuate. There are parts of us that don’t come online until they enter into a relationship where their needs, wants, values, and personality can...
Are you codependent in your relationships?

Are you codependent in your relationships?

How do you know if you are codependent? We are all codependent to some degree because it is a biological imperative that we connect with other people. And in seasons of crisis codependence tends to increase because it’s much harder to keep ourselves emotionally...
Is this a healthy relationship? Green Flags Part 1

Is this a healthy relationship? Green Flags Part 1

How do I know this relationship is a go? Look for green flags.💚 Green flags in relationship are indicators of mutual benefit, compatibility, and respect. In the early stages of relationships your body, mind, and emotions have a good idea how they feel around...